2014年10月13日 星期一

陽光與陰影

太陽掛在天上,有人會選擇昂首望向陽光,心境開朗;有人會選擇低頭望向陰影,自怨自艾。人生就如太陽,總會有成敗得失,但我們能選擇不同的角度去看待自身的人生,抬頭,抑或低頭,全取決於自己的態度。

沒有人是一無是處,沒有人是一無所有,沒有人是只有黑漆漆的陰影。只要我們懷着昂首望向陽光的態度,我們其實一無所缺。力克胡哲是大眾眼中無手無腳的可憐人,但他曾語氣輕鬆地說:“我還有一小雞腿,愛我的家人,還可做任何運動。"又例如患有肌萎縮性脊髓側索硬化症的霍金,雖全身癱瘓,但他仍樂觀積極地說:“我還有可運轉的大腦,可表達想法的電腦,愛我的家人。"以上兩人看到的不是自己缺乏了什麼,而是自己擁有了什麼。他們都昂首闊步,朝向陽光,一步,一步地開創自己的未來,甚至成為世界聞名的演說家,天文學家。

反觀,選擇自怨自艾,瑟縮在陰影的籠罩下的人只會為自己,甚至他人帶來不可磨滅的傷口。早前,一直以“乖巧"形象獲得大眾支持的柯震東捲入吸毒風波。他因不堪工作壓力而選擇吸食大麻,結果該事件曝光後,他的前途可說是盡毁了,他的父母更因此而被批評教子無方,受別人白眼。倘若當時他能把工作壓力視為工作動力,咬緊牙關,跨越難關,一點兒的大麻也不碰,結果或仍有光明的前途,萬萬不是如今黑洞般的深淵。

由是觀之,面對自己的人生,有人會選擇昂首望向陽光,看到自己美好的一面,而感到自豪;有人會選擇低頭望向陰影,看着自己失意的地方,而感到鬱悶,甚至誤入歧途,浪費大好人生。人生的好與壞,其實在於我們怎麼看。

若要築成成功的道路,我們必需有一塊塊堅強的瓦片,好讓我們在路途上昂首闊步。中國國家多名運動員,包括劉翔,郭晶,林丹等,流過了許多血汗,時常遭受挫折:教練的厲言,訓練的辛酸,比賽落敗;缺席家庭,朋友的聚會……即使如此,他們仍堅持不懈,跨過一個又一個難關,一次又一次地增強自己,終於在比賽上大展所長,擊敗各路英雄,為自己帶來努力的肯定,為中國贏得掌聲,為中國人帶來驕傲。這些的種種,全因他們時刻記得昂首,記得自己現在的一切是為了頭上的曙光,遇上陰霾也沒有鬱鬱寡歡。因為陰影是陽光的附屬品,有着陰影,才可知道陽光的位置。他們需透過陰霾-教練的教訓,比賽的失敗,才能更了解自己的不足,從而自我完善,變得更強。羅馬不是一天築成,在築成羅馬前,我們便需有多片堅強的瓦片,而陽光正是堅強的來源,而陰霾則是自我完善的建築師 。因此只要時刻記得陽光,不沉淪於自怨自艾,陰霾其實是我們的導師。

陽光與陰影,兩者不可分割,互相依存。人生路上,總會有陽光照耀的時候,亦會有陰影籠罩的時候。要走得豁然開朗,我們應昂首朝向陽光,更應把陰霾視為我們的導師,而不是我們的夢魘。

2013年9月19日 星期四

談談我的家庭

  在一個有兄弟姊妹的家庭裏,一定會有一個是父母較重視丶關愛的兄弟姊妺,而這個情況便是偏心。在我的家庭裏,爸爸是一家之主,媽媽是家庭主婦,還有一個大我五年的姊姊,一個又典型又傳統的香港家庭。我雙親曾說過他們沒有偏心於我們其中的一個,但我可以感覺到他們有偏心我姊姊,可能是他們不經意中表露出來,而他們不以為然。

  曾經我請求父母淮許我與一大班醫院義工踏單車,但他們一句說危險丶不許去,這就完全截絕我任何說話,可我已是一名中五學生。但我姊姊說要去踏單車,他們一句說話也沒有說,十分同意她去踏單車。其實我可以明白他們對我的安危而擔憂,但他們可否一致對待我倆姊妹,而且態度能否好些?我真的丶真的非常討厭大男人主義的父親,恃着自己是一家之主就能控制所有,父權在我家中已深深植根。

  我真的不想嫉妒姊姊,但不行,我只是一個平凡人,都會有陰暗的一面。其實在小時候已可見到父母的偏心:姊姊五丶六歲 生日時,他們在麥當勞替她辦生日會,還不只是一次,但我兒時,半次也沒有;在埾誕節的時候,他們主動買一份聖誕禮物給她,而我要主動地問他們,他們才買給我。現在,我真的覺得父親並不喜歡我,他比較,或者應說寵愛姊姊,他會出席姊姊的家長日,而我一直以來都是只有母親出席,我相信將來也是一樣。姊姊有時晚回家、叫爸爸替她拿東西,他會馬上換衣服下樓接她、半個拒絕的眼神、說話也沒有地拿給她。

        一直以來我都把自己心中的負面情緒屈在心中,憤怒、委屈、妒忌、不甘……全都憋屈心裡,有時我真的快要崩潰、像一個不計時炸彈隨時爆發出來。因此我學懂了一個方法,除了把自己的不滿或想法寫出來,還有的是拋棄所有感覺,做一座冰山,這樣就可以平復自己、心理健康,我希望成功啦!

2013年9月16日 星期一

思想的衝突

  難道在不同年代出生的人相處起來,真的會有代溝?為何父母的想法總是與孩子的想法南轅北轍、產生衝突?是他們保守固執,還是我們幼稚魯莽?

  參與一個學生展覽導賞員計劃,我抱着勇敢嘗試的態度,即使我普通話並不熟練,但我希望藉着面試的機會,能夠有一次面試的經驗,一次以普通話面試的經驗,或者這可作將來大學面試的經驗,又或者豐富我人生的一頁。

  可母親的想法是明知道自己不行,為何要浪費時間去參加呢?倒不把時間花在學業上,考好文憑試,入大學,這樣才是最實際。

  我不知道是我的想法對,還是母親的想法對?但我只知道這個計劃難能可貴,錯過了未必會有下一次,應該鼓起勇氣,至少去嘗試一下。然而我向現實低頭,放棄這次面試機會,迎合母親的想法,迎合社會的要求。

  人生苦短,每個人都應勇敢地追求自己心中所想,為自己的人生不留任何一絲遺憾,帶着幸福面對死神的到來。不過現實社會的觀念已經根深蒂固於人們的腦海裏,已牢牢植根,不能拔出。着重學業成績,忽略自身的興趣,就算有參加興趣活動,大多數都是父母的“興趣“,而不是孩子的意願。當一個人被剝奪選擇自己意願的時候,那他還是一個“人“嗎?他們只是一個個死讀書的機器,一個個受父母支配的扯線玩偶。這,或許是社會正想需要的將來吧,是我們不能逃脫的現實。

2013年8月2日 星期五

富庶的物質生活難以令人快樂,或是快樂的基礎?

  香港,眾所周知是國際大都會,市民都有着富裕的物質生活,例如購買名牌手袋、智能手機、手錶......可是,擁有富裕的物質生活便能感到快樂? 據多項國際調查顯示,香港的快樂指數極低,甚至位居於後排,僅次於一些發展中的國家。因此,我認為即使擁有富庶的物質生活,也難以令人快樂。

  首先,甚麼是快樂?快樂是當你看到、聽到或感受到一些事情或別人的行為時,而有一種嘴角會上揚、張開嘴巴大笑,或者是煩惱暫時忘記的感覺。由此可見,快樂是一種精神上的滿足。

  富庶的物質生活固然能夠帶來物質上及生理上的滿足 ,但它可以為精神上帶來滿足、帶來快樂嗎?要知道,物質及精神上的滿足是截然不同的: 前者帶來的滿足只是短暫;後者帶來的滿足則較長期。因為物質生活的滿足如購買的名牌手錶及手袋、智能手機、衣服......他們總會有一天因失修已久、破損、過時,甚至當我們雲遊時,他們全都不能與我們同在,一切在物質生活上的滿足全會在一段時間後消失得無影無蹤、不留任何丁點兒的碎片。短期的快樂,還能稱得上真正的快樂嗎?

  追求富裕的物質生活不但只會帶來短期的快樂,而且會帶來功利的心態和焦慮。香港人普遍愛追潮流與名牌,他們會把錢放在最新推出的智能手機、手袋、夏季服裝、運動鞋......不過,你知道他們愛追潮流與名牌的原因嗎? 當然有一部份的原因是他們真的喜歡那些東西,然而最大的原因是為了贏取別人的目光。以一個辦公室女郎為例,她會節衣縮食、日日吃沙律、上班乘撘最便宜的公共交通工具,為的就是存錢買最新推出的手袋,在其他同事前炫耀。在這個過程中,她感到的心情並不是快樂,而是焦慮,還表現出功利的心態。因為她每天都在焦慮着今天吃沙律和乘坐公共交通工具而存下來的錢夠不夠、其他同事會如何看待她,會認為她市儈,抑或是窮困、她準備買的手袋能不能獲取同事的讚嘆、吸引他們的視線等。短期的快樂,加上快樂前的焦慮和功利的心態,難道你會覺得富裕的物質生活可以使你得到真正、沒有任何雜質的快樂嗎?

  那真正、長期、沒有任何雜質的快樂是如何能夠獲得?精神上的滿足,即是真正、長期、沒有任何雜質的快樂,顧名思義它是從精神上的交流中獲到的,例如: 幫助別人及抱着積極樂觀的心態。

  幫助別人的同時能夠讓自己快樂,例如: 當你在地鐵車廂內讓座給老奶奶時,看到她那衰老的身軀坐下,你會臉上浮起一抹笑容;當你替失散的孩子找回母親時,看到他一面眼淚一面鼻涕地撲進母親的懷抱,你會心中泛起一絲安慰;當你幫母親做家務,讓她可以鬆弛一直以來因做家務而疲累的身體,你會覺得你所做的是值得的......這些種種的情景都能獲得精神上的滿足,並且是最容易、最原始、最純粹、最長時間的快樂。因為它不需要任何金錢、任何門檻,需要的只是一顆幫助人的心便可做到;從它得到的快樂並不與任何手袋、手錶、智能手機掛勾,得到的快樂只是單純地幫助了別人;從它得來的快樂你也許在那一刻轉眼就忘記,但它只是藏在你內心深處,在許多年後,你會記得,你曾經伸出你的援手。這些都是不能從物質生活中獲取;這些都是即使擁有富庶的物質生活,也不能夠體會到的。

  力克·胡哲,正是一個好例子,證明只要抱着積極樂觀的心態,也可以得到快樂。他沒有四肢、只有一個腳趾,別人以為他失去一切、人生會非常黑暗。但他們都錯了,他沒有失去一切,他反而得到一切;他的人生非常光明,他日日都快樂地分享自己的人生。他並不是大富大貴、家財萬貫、擁有富庶的物質生活,他的家景普通,與我們大多數人一樣,僅僅足夠養活自己和家人,有時會有額外的金錢玩樂。那你會問:「為什麼他仍然感到快樂?我們日日都抱怨着別人和社會,為什麼我們不能賺許多錢?」因為他有着許多人都知道、但很難做到的積極樂觀的心態,許多人都多愁善感,終日抱怨自己命苦,工薪僅僅足夠生活,沒有很多額外的金錢玩樂,認為擁有富裕的物質生活才是快樂的基礎。其實積極樂觀的心態才是快樂的基礎,擁有它後,看整個世界的感覺頓時變得不同起來: 你會覺得世界充滿希望、沒有什麼做不到、所有人和事都是美好的。積極樂觀地面對工作上的失意、學業上的困難、朋友間的不和,所有的難關和衝突都會迎刃而解,快樂隨之到來。因此抱着積極樂觀的心態生活,快樂任何時刻都在。

  總括來說,富庶的物質生活不但不是快樂的基礎,而且難以使人快樂。因為快樂是精神上的滿足,要獲得真正、長期、沒有任何雜質的快樂便要從精神上的交流中得到,即幫助別人及抱着積極樂觀的心態。只要擁有一顆幫助人的心和積極樂觀的心態,快樂,隨時在你心中。

2013年7月28日 星期日

News Reponse 27-7-2013

Title: Dressed to thrill, cosplayers bring fantasy to life at comic expo
Date: 27th July
Source: SCMP


Feedback: This news is about the annual Ani-Com & Game Hong Kong fair. Like the past years, there are a lot of cosplayers showcasing the characters of different comics, animations or computer games this year. The majority of the cosplayers are teenagers and they love cosplay because they love the characters they are dressing and want them known to others by bringing to life. Also some of them said that cosplay can make them meet new friends and have a kind of nice and feel likeable. 

In recent years, cosplay becomes a hot topic on teenagers in Hong Kong. Many people believe that cosplayers are lazy and have academic failure, there is not many parents supporting their children to be cosplayers due to the stereotypes. 

In fact, cosplay has certain benefits to teenagers. 


First cosplay can help youngsters build up confidence. Most cosplayers are shy and introverted who always stay at home and afraid of socializing with others. However when they dress up, they are different people, they become confident and extroverted. It is because they love the characters they are cosplaying and they think they become the characters, having a new identity so they have courage to interact with others. The heart of cosplay is their source of confidence. Besides cosplay needs to face lots of people as they need to join the competition or be taken pictures by many photographers. Therefore in some ways, cosplay can help teenagers become confident because they can have a new identity which is stronger than their original identity which only stays at home all the time and afraid of interact with others as most of the characters they love are heroes who are powerful.


Cosplay can also increase the creativity of teenagers. Since the teenagers need to make the clothes and crops by themselves, they need to create wonderful clothes and crops for example, they need to think how to make the clothes are exactly the same in the animation in order to get all people's eyes or win the champion. Creativity is increasing while they are making their clothes and crops.


Social skill can also be improved through cosplay.  As the cosplayers will meet lots of other cosplayers from different districts or even countries, so they can improve their social skills as they have the same interest and they may discuss it together like the favourite comic character, the plot of animations, the process of making the clothes etc. Hence social skill is developed and social circle is enlarged.  


Nevertheless cosplay does have disadvantages to teenagers. 

Teenagers may waste a lot of money. As they need to make the clothes and crops, they need to buy lots of materials to make it, for instance, the girl spent $600 to buy the materials to make the clothes which is expensive. Cosplay requires much money and this is wasting lots of money of teenagers.

Furthermore the self-concept of teenagers may be twisted. Since most of the cosplayers identify themselves as the characters in the comics, animations or computer games, they are away from the reality and refuse to accept their real identity. As most of them may get failure in real life like academic, love and familys relationship etc, they try to escape from these by identifing themselves as the strong characters in the comics, animations or computer games. Soon they can not remember who they are actually and the self-concepts are twisted. 


Except the self-concept may be twisted, the teenagers may receive wrong values. It is because nowadays many comics, animation and computer games obtain lots of wrong concepts like violence, sex, brutality etc. Once the teenagers identify themselves as the characters in those comics, animations or computer games, they are brainwashed to be violent, brutal and have wrong concepts like sex, for example there was a news about a boy raped a woman like the main character did in the animation or in the past weeks, there was a parent killed by their son as the son thought the parent are the enemies he played in the computer game. These show that teenagers easily absorb wrong concepts through cosplay as they may identify themselves as the characters in the comics, animations or computer games which obtain violence, sex or brutality etc.


To sum up, cosplay does have benefits and drawbacks to teenagers. However this is up to the teenagers'chioces of the comics, animations and computer games and their attitudes towards cosplay. If they choose the right comics, animations or computer games, they definitely will not be able to obtain wrong concepts; If they have a right attitude towards cosplay like it is a kind of entertainment and study is more important than it right now, they will not become addicted to it and have academic failure. Therefore it is the choice for the teenagers whether let cosplay become good to them or not.

2013年7月21日 星期日

News Response 21-7-2013

Title: North Korea gets world in a panic, even without trying
Date: 18th July,2013
Source: The Times

Feedback: This is about North Korea hauled 240 tons of weapons to Cuba which caused an international uproar. Cuba's foreign ministry has dismissed international concerns and said those 240 tons of weapons are defensive which require repair. However there are 10000 tons of brown sugar used to cover the illicit consignment of weapons, the saying of Cuba's foreign ministry is doubted. This is not the first time that North Korea put the world in a panic, North Korea has helped countries like Iran and Pakistan develop a nuclear capability and fired missiles over South Korea and Japan. Many experts believe that North Korea puts the world into chaos in an attempt to obtain benefits and strengthen her international status. Andrei Lankov who is a professor of Korean studies at Seoul's Kookmin University points out that the major concerns of North Korea are her own political and physical survival. As in 1994, there were re-start talks between US and North Korea when North Korea threatened to withdraw from nuclear non-proliferation agreement and engulf Seoul. During the talks, US promised offering the regime half a million tons of oil, two free proliferation-resistant nuclear reactors and large-scale shipments of food aid. Therefore he believes that North Korea will be weakened if she is crippled by sanctions and hindered by dysfunctional economy, and if she does not threaten the world, the world will have more peace.

  Mysterious, selfish, aggressive, obsolete, these are the adjectives I think of instantaneously when I heard of North Korea. North Korea still does not open her country and keeps on her totalitarian rule which is so mysterious and obsolete as her development is so slow that there is no tall and modern buildings, people wear simple and old-fashioned clothes, old cars etc. There are many times the world is jittery because of North Korea's testing of nuclear missiles and other incidents like this news mentioned, these show North Korea is so selfish and aggressive that she only considers herself. In my opinion, I think North Korea can not put the world in a panic again because other countries may not be able to bear her again and relative to the developments of other countries, North Korea has no possibility to win in the war if North Korea wants to declare a war to other countries. It is because North Korea has slow development and relies on the food aid and there is no quick economic development to support her nuclear weapons projects, all these are her weaknesses and will hinder her much when she comes to war. Actually I really do not understand why North Korea still keeps her totalitarian rule even she gets so many weaknesses. I think she should act like China in the 1980s, opening her market and modernize the country, maybe North Korea can be the second China. Of course North Korea needs to give up her totalitarian rule and thought of putting the world into chaos then she can develop her country by doing trade with other countries, strengthening her country and the world can have peace.  

2013年7月19日 星期五

如果時間能停留,我會___________

  光陰似箭、時光飛逝、日月如梭......有許多字詞都是形容時間過得很快,當你察覺到想抓住它時,它已一溜煙跑走了。因此有很多人都希望將時間停留,讓他們有時間去實現,或是體會自己渴望已久的事。而我就有多個願望......
  
  如果時間能停留,我會到書店取走各種各類的書籍回家。因為我們只從課本上汲取知識是不足夠的,知識是源源不絕、浩瀚的大海,現在教育亦提倡自學,所以我們不但要閱讀課本,還要上網搜尋資料、閱讀課外書,這才能擁有全面的知識。閱讀課外書除了到圖書館借閱,最好去的地方便是書店。因為書店會售賣最新出版的書籍,而圖書館購買新書的速度遠遠不及上出版商出新書的速度,往往只有年代久遠的書籍,內容有時會過時,特別是有關科學的書本。不過要購買各種各類的書本對我一名學生來說,未免有沉重的負擔。因此我希望在時間停留時,到書店取走書籍回家閱讀。當然看畢後,我會把它們回歸原處。這樣便能填滿我的知識庫,腦袋變得多采多姿。
  

  如果時間能停留,我會將它停留在爸爸感到疲累的時候。爸爸是家中的經濟支柱,他每日朝九晚六,即使前一天與老闆應酬到深夜,第二天仍然會早早起床上班,拖着沉甸甸的身體做體力勞動的工作,為的就是賺錢養家、賺生活費、書簿費、學費......無論有什麼工作,爸爸都不會拒絕,他會竭盡所能地完成工作,為的就是我們。爸爸是多麼的辛苦、多麼的疲勞,因此我希望可以將時間停留在他身體發出疲倦訊號的時候。這樣的話,我可以替他按摩肌肉、舒緩筋骨,讓緊繃的肌肉鬆弛,待時間回復正常時,他便有力氣、精力充沛地工作。爸爸便不會像被抽亁水分的海綿一樣,筋疲力盡地回家,第二天又要拖着虛弱、沉重的身體上班。
  

  如果時間能停留,我會選擇將它停留在貧富懸殊嚴重的時候。由於政府未能推出有效解決和協助貧困問題的政策,導致富裕的人越來越富裕,貧窮的人越來越貧窮,貧富懸殊的情況越趨嚴重。據日前的研究指出,香港的堅尼係數達0.537,是亞洲第二個貧富懸殊嚴重的地區。堅尼係數是由1至0,0代表每個居民收入平均,每個居民的收入都是類似的,而越接近1則代表每個居民收入不平均,一個居民的收入可能高達於五個居民的收入。有見及此,我希望時間停留在貧富懸殊嚴重的時候,政府可趁機推行多項扶貧政策,如:資助貧窮家庭醫療開支和學費、為貧窮者提供職業培訓以獲取就業機會、 增加工作機會讓貧窮人士投身職場以賺取收入、加重富豪的稅收以減慢富者越富的速度......然後在時間繼續流逝時,貧困的人能變得富有起來,能夠與富裕的人並排一列,貧富懸殊的問題能夠得以解決。
   

  如果時間能停留,我會將它停留於第二次世界大戰期間愛因斯坦發明原子彈的時候。愛因斯坦發明的原子彈威力浩大,造成成千上萬的死者,並影響深遠,如:受過原子彈洗禮的地方的居民日後所生的孩子會有可能畸形、輻射會影響農作物的正常生長、居民會有癌病......而且原子彈的發明開啟了核武的時代,俄羅斯、中國、北韓、日本等多個國家研發核武,核武散佈世界各地。核能泄漏帶來的後果十分嚴重,並且影響深遠,如在上年日本福島核電廠泄漏核能事故,至今仍對當地居民、食物造成影響。另外發展國家會將研究核武時產生的垃圾棄置於發展中國家,影響當地生態、環境、居民健康。還有核武的出現讓世界陷入動蕩之中,因為有國家研製多個核武,企圖威脅其他國家,成為世界之首,引起戰爭的導火線。因此我希望可以阻止到原子彈的誕生,從而阻止核武的出現,世界和平。
  

  如果時間能停留,你又會怎樣做?